Friday, May 23, 2008
Trials, Tribulations and Friendship
I sit here in bed, propped by my pillows while watching Star Trek Voyager, and am accused of suffering from a ‘San Diego mentality’ where I am laid back and don’t follow through with meeting people I have chatted with online. I admit that things have not been the easiest lately in regards for meeting new people between work and being sick. But I have learned one thing, though.
I learned to try to keep my attitude on a positive level. It isn’t always easy, especially when getting sicker than I have ever been in my life before and not having the full support group around me that I had come to rely on in the past.
Many of the people I have talked with online have been through a site called Adam4Adam, which is predominantly known for hooking up gay men for sexual encounters. It isn’t the most condusive for making friendships…just for helping us fags get our rocks off. Not to say that I haven’t made some good friends off of there. There are a couple of people in San Diego I met through there that I have remained friends with over the last couple of months.
But there is one kid whom I have talked with off and on through A4A and been extremely shocked by his negative mentality. I never did understand what the point was for him being upset that he hadn’t dated anyone in four years. I haven’t either. And while I have been depressed here and there because of my strong desire for companionship in my life, I always knew that things would happen when they were supposed to. I have another friend who hasn’t had a relationship and he is 25. But he doesn’t let the downfalls of life drag him down.
I think the biggest thing we have to remember is that our trials and tribulations are what helps build character and makes us stronger, more secure in our life. We are enriched by the people who come into our lives, or so I can believe. But, I (am attempting to) refuse to let the hell of the last few weeks drag me further down. I can’t let it drag me down…otherwise what hope do I have for finally getting better? ¶ 5/23/2008 04:30:00 PM
I learned to try to keep my attitude on a positive level. It isn’t always easy, especially when getting sicker than I have ever been in my life before and not having the full support group around me that I had come to rely on in the past.
Many of the people I have talked with online have been through a site called Adam4Adam, which is predominantly known for hooking up gay men for sexual encounters. It isn’t the most condusive for making friendships…just for helping us fags get our rocks off. Not to say that I haven’t made some good friends off of there. There are a couple of people in San Diego I met through there that I have remained friends with over the last couple of months.
But there is one kid whom I have talked with off and on through A4A and been extremely shocked by his negative mentality. I never did understand what the point was for him being upset that he hadn’t dated anyone in four years. I haven’t either. And while I have been depressed here and there because of my strong desire for companionship in my life, I always knew that things would happen when they were supposed to. I have another friend who hasn’t had a relationship and he is 25. But he doesn’t let the downfalls of life drag him down.
I think the biggest thing we have to remember is that our trials and tribulations are what helps build character and makes us stronger, more secure in our life. We are enriched by the people who come into our lives, or so I can believe. But, I (am attempting to) refuse to let the hell of the last few weeks drag me further down. I can’t let it drag me down…otherwise what hope do I have for finally getting better? ¶ 5/23/2008 04:30:00 PM
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