Tuesday, February 14, 2006
A little randomness
"We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who's right and who's wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and we do it with political systems, with all kinds of things that we don't like about our associates or our society. It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others. Blaming is a way to protect your heart, trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground."
~Pema Chodron
I know that today is about love, but I still thought that this is appropriate. We blame others for things that we don’t like, or when things go wrong. Sometimes that blame is valid; other times not. The skill is learning when and where the place the blame for all.
And one more thing. Can someone please define casual dating? It seems that there are several definitions floating around out there as to the meaning of that, and no one can agree to one thing.
Have a great day!
Song of the morning: “Every time we touch” by Cascada ¶ 2/14/2006 04:48:00 AM
~Pema Chodron
I know that today is about love, but I still thought that this is appropriate. We blame others for things that we don’t like, or when things go wrong. Sometimes that blame is valid; other times not. The skill is learning when and where the place the blame for all.
And one more thing. Can someone please define casual dating? It seems that there are several definitions floating around out there as to the meaning of that, and no one can agree to one thing.
Have a great day!
Song of the morning: “Every time we touch” by Cascada ¶ 2/14/2006 04:48:00 AM
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I don't know what everyone else thinks, but my definition of "casual dating" is almost like dating someone exclusively, or nearly exclusively, but with no official commitment or entrance into a monogamous relationship. The most important part of this definition is that both parties agree that they are NOT in a monogamous relationship (and are not sleeping in the same bed every night, for lack of a better phrase).
But I know, like you, that there are many other definitions of this phenomena. That's just my take on it.
But I know, like you, that there are many other definitions of this phenomena. That's just my take on it.
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: 5:22 AM
Normally I date exclusively from the get-go. That has always been me. But I have been trying to keep myself a little more free and less apt for pitfalls. Not always easy, especially as emotionally entangled as I get with things. But I have always been informed that casual dating is an occasional night at the other person's house, and talking some during the week, but allowing for the opportunity to see someone else as well. Then, when things get more serious, you can cut it down and become more exclusive.
I guess I always did the exclusive from the beginning, cutting myself off from others.
Good or bad thing? There is no telling, I guess. Seems like it is in the eye of the beholder. Or perhaps it was the bed of the other? LOL
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I guess I always did the exclusive from the beginning, cutting myself off from others.
Good or bad thing? There is no telling, I guess. Seems like it is in the eye of the beholder. Or perhaps it was the bed of the other? LOL
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